Stop Caring About What Other People Think
If there’s one thing I know, it’s that you can’t be everyone’s cup of tea, otherwise you’ll be a mug… There’s always going to be people who don’t like you and people who spread rumours and talk about you behind your back, but no matter how hard you try, you’ll never be able to control what people think about you, even if you do everything right.
Jesus was perfect, yet there were still people who tried to pick out faults in Him and bring Him down. But that didn’t stop Him from accomplishing the work that was set for Him and overcoming the trials. Yet, many of us get caught up in what other people think of us, that we live our lives for them and not for Jesus.
When we elevate Man’s praise to the extent that it overrides the praise of our God, we become dependent on Man’s approval and we seek it more than seeking the way of God. We begin to idolise the perception of people and begin to perform for the wrong crowd.
But you were never called to perform to prove yourself, you were called to perform with purpose. The moment you begin to perform to prove yourself, is the moment you begin to try to validate and authenticate something that can only undermine your call to purpose. Sometimes people try to prove themselves to other people, so that they can receive the validation to prove it to themselves.
So ask yourself... “Am I now trying to win the approval of human beings, or of God? Or am I trying to please people? If I were still trying to please people, I would not be a servant of Christ.” – Galatians 1:10
There used to be a time in my life where I cared so much about other people’s opinions of me. All I desired was for people to like me and no matter how hard I tried, I always exhausted myself trying to be a people’s pleaser. But that’s the issue: we want to be viewed a certain way, this perfect kind of way, in which everyone thinks the best of us. Yet as humans, we all fall short of the glory of God and it’s exhausting trying to please everyone, but yourself.
When you’re fixated on people’s opinions of you, you will only ruin your own peace. It doesn’t matter what people believe about you, what really matters is what you believe about yourself. If we ain’t true to ourselves then it’s so easy to lose our identity and believe the false rumours. As long as you know the truth, then the truth will set you free.
As Christians, we should want to present ourselves as a reflection of Christ and radiate His light to the world. We should want to walk with the Spirit and feel like we’re on fire for the Lord. Everything we do should be for the glory of God. But we’re human and it’s ok to fail.
Many people are willing, however, to risk their whole relationship with Jesus for the sake of a reputation. We begin to follow Jesus from afar, because we feel ashamed of being set apart, when we fail to share the things God has done for us. They’ll be people who are jealous of you, because they see that your heart is fully for the Lord, but you should never feel like you have to jeopardise your relationship with Christ for the sake of other people.
Never change yourself so that other people like you. You don’t need that negativity in your life. Be yourself and let the right people come to you. Inner peace is when you no longer care about what other people think of you, because you know who you are and you no longer feel the need to prove it to anybody.
You’ll always fall short if you spend the rest of your life caring about what other people think. Instead know that God has already validated you as His sons and daughters in Christ and He proved this to you by the Blood of the Lamb, so that you don’t have to prove it to yourself or others…