Read This If You're Single On Valentine's Day
To the girl or boy struggling with insecurity or feeling the void of loneliness on Valentine's day, I want you to know that you are so loved. Since we were created in the most purest kind of love, it’s natural for us to want to feel loved. Yet, in a broken world that makes us believe that in order to feel loved, we must be in a relationship, I want you to know that this simply is not true…
Don't wait on a relationship to start living your best life. Many of us are seeking a relationship in the hope that someone will complete us. The truth is you don't need anyone to complete you, apart from Jesus. A man might not be pursuing you right now, but Jesus is always pursuing you with an unfailing, steadfast love. If His love is not enough for you, then no one will ever be enough for you.
“Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.” – Proverbs 4:23
When you guard your heart and embrace the season of singleness, you allow Him to prepare you for the right person. When you learn to love yourself, you make even better choices and when your identity is in Christ alone, you won’t ever sell yourself cheap. The reason why we have serial daters, that hop from one relationship to the next is because deep down they don’t know who they are.
You see, you can be the whole package and still end up at the wrong address. If this happens, the receiver will mishandle you because they weren’t meant to have you in the first place. You know something is not from God when it begins to ruin your peace. The dangerous thing is that the more wrong relationships we’re in, the more emotional baggage we claim. If a guy/girl hasn’t said yes to Jesus, how is he going to say yes to you?
My question for you is: would you rather be pursued lustfully or be loved respectfully? So many of us are settling to satisfy the ache in our hearts to be loved. So many of us are dependent on others to validate our worth. If God isn't their source of love, how can they love you the way you were supposed to be loved?
“The heart is deceitful above all things...” – Jeremiah 17:9
Stop chasing feelings. The Bible tells us that we aren’t supposed to follow our heart, because our hearts can be deceitful. We need to start feeling less and knowing more. Rather than simply feeling, we need to start existing in a love that is based on the foundations of knowing God’s truth.
The truth is: your worth comes from being a daughter/son of the Most High. Instead of focusing on our insecurities, we need to step back and see the bigger picture to understand that we have eternal value and worth. When God looks at you, He cannot forsake you because you were created in His own image and for greatness.
“For we are God’s masterpiece. He has created us anew in Christ Jesus, so we can do the good things he planned for us long ago.” – Ephesians 2:10
One of the first places the enemy tries to attack is your identity. The enemy will use your season of singleness to make you believe that you are not good enough or simply not worthy of love. The thing is we can play along and make jokes about our singleness, but the truth is behind them lies sadness and insecurity. Embrace with joy the season that God has placed you in because there's always a reason behind every season.
“You have made us for yourself, O Lord, and our hearts are restless until they rest in you.” – St Augustine
One of the best things you can do this Valentine’s Day is to allow God to be your refuge. It might sound cringe but go on dates with Jesus. There’s nothing more perfect then immersing yourself in His presence. Maybe, it is seeking Him in the Word whilst on a coffee date or in adoration. In the midst of loneliness, allow God’s presence to fill the void and satisfy your longing for relationship.
“My sacrifice, O God, is a broken spirit; a broken and contrite heart you, God, will not despise.” — Psalms 51:17
Come as you are - God does not wait for the better version of you to turn up. God meets you as you are and loves you enough to not leave you the way He found you. Whether you’re broken, messed up or falling apart right now, God wants to intervene in your life and let His love heal you.
Don’t wait on a relationship to start living. Focus on the people that are in your life right now and invest your time and energy in those friendships. You might not receive flowers or chocolate, but God’s love is the greatest gift He can offer us. The one thing God promises is that His love won't ever let you down. Rather than looking for other options in your life, make Jesus the focus of your life and allow Him to be the source of your love.