Let's Talk About Sex
A lot of Christians are lukewarm when it comes to sex. If Christians don't talk about it, then we invite the world to talk incorrectly about it. The common misconception is that sex is bad, sex is dirty, and sex is wrong. God defined sex to be good and pure, but society have perverted it to equal lust. Whereas, love says this is my body given up for you, lust says this is your body taken by me.
The sad reality is that many young girls these days have fallen into the trap of giving up their virginity to someone who was never even qualified to have taken it in the first place. Others have become victims of a “hit and run” or “splash and dash”, whose dignity was robbed from right underneath them. Many wish they would have waited but flirted around the edges, until it was a little too late.
The thing about sex was that it was designed by God for pleasure and procreation. In fact, the first command God said to Adam & Eve was go do ya thing literally – “Go forth and multiply”. But you see, Eve was made for Adam. Eve was taken directly from his rib, as a sign that she was part of him.
God did not take Eve from Adam’s head to Lord it over him or from his feet to be walked upon by him but from his side to walk with him, from his heart to be loved by him, from beneath his arm to be guarded by him. God made Eve so perfect for Adam, so that the two could be one in a marriage covenant with Him.
The beauty about sex is that it is a holy covenant with God – a gift that is so powerful that God wraps it up in a box that should only be unsealed after marriage. Every covenant involves some sort of bloodshed and scientifically, there is often some sort of bloodshed during your first time to seal the covenant between you, your partner and God. It's the spiritual reason why I feel so convicted to wait.
When it’s the right timing, God will continue to bless it and allow it to bear fruit. A one-night-stand, however, is like saying “I do” without the covenant, without the security of knowing that the other person would lay down their life for you.
“So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.” Mark 10:8-9
Every time you give yourself in covenant to someone else, you are spiritually glued to them. Whenever you try to detach, it means a piece of you has to be ripped off and taken by them. The more casual hook ups people have, the more they get torn apart and that’s how we’ve ended up with a broken world that is emotionally dysfunctional.
The act of sex is far more than just a physical act of unity. It's furthermore, an emotional and spiritual act that forms soul ties and deep attachments. God made the gift soo powerful that when used outside the context of marriage, its nature can be harmful. Many have had their bodies, which are temples of the Holy Spirit, desecrated by allowing others to steal their confidence, peace and joy. It may feel good in the moment, but it’s a tactic used by the devil to lure you.
If sex is a covenant between God, then fornication is a covenant with the devil. The thing about sexual impurity, is that when it enters your life, everything else follows – lying, deception, doubt, selfishness and pride. When the devil has a hold of your flesh, the spirit becomes too weak to fight back and it can only give in to other temptations.
That’s why the Bible is so clear when it says “Flee from sexual immorality. Every other sin a person commits is outside the body, but the sexually immoral person sins against his own body.” - 1 Corinthians 6:18-20
When you have sex, you’re physically, emotionally and spiritually naked and to me, that’s total transparency. That’s why God placed boundaries in your life, to protect you from being burned, not to keep you being thirsty. Rather, it enables you to exercise self-control, chastity and purity.
Many worry about being inexperienced, but that’s the beauty of the act. Your first time will most likely be a bit awkward anyways, but if you experience that vulnerability with someone who truly loves you and vowed to spend the rest of their life with you, then there’s no reason to be afraid.
If you choose to wait till marriage, trust me you’re not alone in this journey. The special one is out their waiting for you. If God had someone special for Adam, what makes you think that He wouldn’t have someone just as good waiting for you?