• Jess

Let's Talk About Contraception

Let’s talk about what they don’t talk about in Sex Ed...

According to the World Health Organisation: combined oestrogen-progestogen oral contraceptives, such as the Pill, were classified as Group 1 Carcinogens. Carcinogens are cancer-causing substances and other Group 1 Carcinogens include: tobacco smoking, arsenic and mustard gas. For those who don’t know: mustard gas was the toxic gas used in World War 1!

The National Blood Clot Alliance revealed that those who took the Pill were 3 to 4 times more likely to develop blood clots and an 8 year Nurse’s Health Study at Harvard Medical School found that Pill users were 250% more likely to have heart attacks and strokes than those who don’t use the Pill. Moreover, common side effects of the Pill include fatigue, depression and weight-gain – it's no wonder they don’t tell you these…

If we are pro-women, then why as women are we taking these pills that do detrimental harm to our bodies? Why are we robbing ourselves of our fertility - the one thing we as women should be proud of? Why are we taking pills knowing that it has the potential to kill us? Men - why would you want your wife or sister taking these substances?

When people are sick, they take pills to make them healthy again, but our world is so twisted that now healthy people are taking pills to stop them from being healthy and fertile. It’s time healthcare professionals stop prescribing the pill, as if it’s the cure to all problems like your acne and heavy cramps. It’s time we as women take control of our own bodies and ditch the pill.

“Don’t you realize that your body is the Temple of the Holy Spirit, who lives in you and was given to you by God? You do not belong to yourself, for God bought you with a high price. So you must honour God with your body.” – 1 Corinthians 6:19-20

Not only is the Pill a violation of our bodies, it’s also a violation of the purpose of sex. Sex was made equally for procreation and pleasure. But when you take either purpose out of the equation, you disorder and violate the nature of sex.

When we use contraception, sex becomes selfish rather than self-less, since the procreative aspect is removed. On the other hand, sex without pleasure becomes mechanical and lifeless. Thus, the solution to “good sex” is to be open to both babies and bonding to fully access the fullness of the beauty that God designed sex to be.

If the Bible teaches us that we should love our spouses sacrificially, like Christ loved the Church, then using contraception prevents one from fully giving themselves to their spouse. When we use contraception, we only give half of ourselves to our partner.

When we use condoms, we place a barrier in-between to prevent us from reaching total intimacy and unity. Contraception essential destroys this idea of the “two becoming one-flesh” and shuts God out of the marriage covenant sealed through the act of sex.

Sex Education teaches us that if you don’t practice safe sex, then say hello to babies and diseases, which is far from the truth. Contraception is the leading culprit for the slippery slope of sin including: infidelity through sex outside marriage, fornication, prostitution and unwanted babies.

No wonder abortion rates are so high - babies are no longer seen as a blessing, but rather a burden. No longer is a baby a precious gift from God, but rather a liability. Do you not think that this is a concerning problem?

There are so many reasons why I will never use contraception… yes - I think it's wrong and no - I don’t want a million babies! One reason that led me to this conviction is that there are other safer and more effective methods, such as: Natural Family Planning (NFP) which are not taught about in Sex Ed.

Natural Family Planning is a form of birth control, which is up to 99% effective, where women can track their fertility and abstain from sex when they are at their most fertile, if they are not ready to conceive. There are many apps available to help women monitor their menstrual cycle and other techniques such as: monitoring temperature and cervical secretion to identity this.

Natural Family Planning is not the same as the ‘pulling out’ method, as it does not actively work against the nature of sex. In Genesis, the Bible tells us the story of Onan who essentially ‘pulled out’ and ‘spilt his seed on the ground’. Since this was a grave sin in the eyes of God, it resulted in Onan’s death. When we work against the nature of sex, by using contraception, we distort the goodness of sex for our own lustful desires.

Abstinence, on the other hand, invites a couple to bear fruits of self-control and is a beautiful way of surrendering one’s fertility to God, without actively working against the nature of sex. We claim we trust God with our lives, but when it comes to our fertility our faith is shaken.

For God's grace is sufficient for you - there's nothing that He will throw at you that you can’t handle. For it takes courage to surrender totally to His Will and Way, but until you allow the Lord to be fully in control, you will never totally be free. Contraception prevents you from loving freely...

Part 5 of #everythingrelationship. #letstalkabout

Created By Jessica Fernandes